Codependency is a way of living in which your happiness and self-worth depend heavily on other people and circumstances.

You may put your own needs aside, seek approval, or try to control people and situations so you can feel okay.

These 20 questions can help you recognize how this shows up in your life. Answer Yes or No based on your life today.

1. Do you find being alone very uncomfortable or difficult?
2. Do you put pressure on yourself to get things right and find it hard to accept mistakes? *
3. Does other people's approval play a big part in whether you feel good about yourself? *
4. Do you feel anxious, desperate, or not good enough when you do not get someone's approval? *
5. Do you often make decisions based on how they will affect other people, with little consideration for yourself? *
6. Do you feel a strong need to keep everything in your life in order? *
7. Do you often put work ahead of relationships, rest, or other important parts of your life? *
8. In close relationships, do you often adapt to what the other person wants without expressing your own feelings or needs? *
9. Do you find it difficult to recognize or admit when you feel angry? *
10. Do you often eat more than you intended or continue eating after you feel full? *
11. Do you spend a lot of time worrying about what other people think of you? *
12. Do you often hide what you really think or feel from other people? *
13. Are you afraid people would reject you if they knew what you were really like? *
14. Do you use alcohol or drugs to avoid feelings of self-doubt or not being good enough? *
15. Do you find it hard to say no when someone asks for your time or help, even when you do not want to agree? *
16. When you feel sad or angry, do you use things like shopping, work, food, screens, or withdrawing from others to avoid those feelings? *
17. When someone lets you down, do you tell yourself you shouldn't let it bother you so much? *
18. Do you feel a strong need to control what people close to you do? *
19. Do you need everyone to be happy with you before you can feel good about yourself? *
20. Do you feel you need others to be strong for you, without being expected to give support in return? *