Sexual Addiction Self-Assessment

Check the descriptions of thoughts or behaviors which describe or come close to describing your sexual behaviour. Consider your entire sexual history not just recent behaviors. For example: If you were abusing porn several years ago but have switched to hook-up apps, massage parlors or meeting people for sex, you should still circle your past porn use. **Watching porn is considered a sexual behavior or activity. As is, searching for sexual images and sexual content such as chat rooms and looking at escort sites or hook-up sites for sex.

Do you tell yourself, or have you told yourself that you were going to watch porn for a short period of time and then found yourself spending more time than originally intended?
Are you keeping, or have you kept your sexual behavior (including watching porn) a secret from your spouse or partner?
Has the type of porn you watch changed from when you first started watching it? For example: you may have started looking at magazines and now watch online or: you may have started watching erotica and now watch more graphic content.
Do you ever regret the amount of time you spend fantasizing about, searching for and engaging in sexual activities?
Would your relationship with your spouse or partner be at risk if they were to know the full extent of your sexual behavior?
If you are in a committed relationship, do you find yourself repeatedly or frequently engaging in secret sexual relationships or casual sexual activities? (including watching porn)
Have your partner, employer, family or friends expressed concern about, or questioned your sexual activities?
Have you ever told yourself that you would stop viewing certain porn sites, certain types of porn, going in chat rooms or engaging in hook-ups only to find yourself doing it again?
Have you purchase services online for erotic/sexual purposes, including memberships on dating sites, online chat, memberships on porn sites or memberships specifically for hooking-up sexually?
Have you participated in activities or behaviors which were risky? (including unprotected sex)
Has your sexual or romantic behavior caused you to lose anyone or anything that is important to you? (romantic relationships, family, friends, career, money, self-esteem community standing)
Have you ever paid for sexual services?
Have you ever received money for sexual services?
Do you become irritated, defensive or anxious after abstaining from sexual activity for a period of time?
Are you in crisis with your spouse, partner, family, friends or at work because of your sexual behavior?
Do you cancel or avoid events and activities so you can engage in sexual activities?
Has your obsessive focus (time spent thinking about and planning) on sex caused you to neglect or reduced your ability to focus and be present with your romantic partner, work, friends, family, interests, school, recreation or other activities?
Do you view, download, share or distribute illegal images or videos or engage in illegal activities such as voyeurism, exhibitionism or prostitution?

If you have checked one or two of these questions, you are at risk of sexual addiction. If you have checked three or more there is a strong possibility you are sexually addicted and should seek help.

**If you have checked the last question, you should seek the assistance of a qualified counsellor who is skilled in handling these matters

What This Means
If you’ve gone through these questions honestly, you probably have a clearer sense of something you may have been unsure about.
This isn’t about labels or overreacting. It’s about recognizing patterns – and deciding what, if anything, you want to do about them.
For some people, this brings a sense of clarity. For others, it simply raises new questions.
Either way, you don’t have to figure everything out right now.

If You’re Wondering What to Do Next
Most people start by trying to understand this on their own before deciding if they need more support.
If you’re considering your next step, there are a few different ways to approach it.

Start with a Structured Program (On Your Own Terms)
If you prefer to reflect, learn, and work through things privately, a self-directed program can be a good place to begin.
It gives you a clear framework to understand your patterns, start making changes, and move at your own pace – without pressure.
→ Explore the Self-Directed Program

Work Directly with a Therapist
If what you’re seeing feels more serious – or if you’ve tried to change before and found it difficult to follow through – working with a therapist can provide structure, accountability, and support.
This tends to be helpful when patterns feel more established, or when the impact is already affecting your relationships, work, or sense of control.
→ Learn About Therapist-Guided Support

Not Sure What You Need Yet?
If you’re somewhere in between – unsure how serious this is or what level of help makes sense – you don’t have to decide right now.
You can reach out, ask questions, and get a clearer sense of what your situation might call for.
→ Get More Information or Reach Out

Porn or Sex Addiction Self-Assessment