If you're here, there's probably something about your porn use or sexual behaviour that has started to concern you.

These 16 questions are designed to help you step back and look at the pattern more objectively — particularly whether it is becoming difficult to control, taking up more space in your life, or creating consequences you don't want.

There are no right or wrong answers. Answer based on what you're actually doing, rather than what you intended to do or hope will change.

1. Do you tell yourself you're only going to watch porn for a short period of time, only to find yourself spending longer than you intended?
2. Do you hide your porn use from your spouse or partner? *
3. Do you minimize how often or how long you watch porn when talking to your spouse or partner? *
4. Over time, have you found yourself watching porn more often or spending more time watching it than you used to? *
5. Over time, have you found yourself seeking more explicit, intense, unusual, or different types of pornography than you used to? *
6. Do you ever feel that your porn use conflicts with your own values or with the kind of person you want to be? *
7. Have you tried to stop or cut back on your porn use, only to find yourself returning to it? *
8. Have you returned to watching porn after being caught or confronted about it, even though you knew doing so could seriously damage your relationship? *
9. If your spouse or partner knew the full extent of your porn use, do you believe it could seriously damage your relationship? *
10. Has your spouse, partner, or someone close to you expressed concern about your porn use? *
11. Has your porn use led you to spend money on sexual content, online interactions, or sexual services that you once wouldn't have considered paying for? *
12. Has your porn use already cost you something important, such as trust in your relationship, self-respect, money, work performance, or something else you value? *
13. Has your porn use progressed into sexual behaviours or experiences that you once told yourself you would never pursue? *
14. Has your porn use caused repeated conflict, loss of trust, or a serious crisis in your relationship? *
15. Has watching porn started taking priority over things that used to matter to you, including time with your partner, family, work, sleep, hobbies, or other activities? *
16. Do thoughts about porn, or thinking about when you can watch it again, make it difficult to be fully present in other parts of your life? *