Wanting some control over your life is normal. Most people prefer knowing what is going to happen, having a plan, and feeling capable of influencing the outcome. But sometimes the need for control becomes exhausting. You may struggle when plans change, feel anxious when someone else is responsible for something important, or find yourself [...]
You make a mistake at work and think about it for the rest of the day. Someone seems disappointed in you, and you immediately wonder what you did wrong. You look at everything you should have accomplished instead of noticing what you actually did. And when you are struggling, the voice in your head [...]
Being kind, generous, and considerate of other people is generally a good thing. Most of us want to be someone others can rely on. We want to help the people we love, avoid unnecessary conflict, and contribute to our relationships. But people pleasing is something different. People pleasing happens when keeping other people happy [...]
Nobody grows up dreaming of becoming addicted. Nobody looks at their future and thinks: “I hope one day I destroy my marriage, numb myself emotionally, lie to the people I love, and feel trapped inside behaviours I hate.” So, the question becomes: Why does addiction happen at all? If you have never personally struggled [...]
Is AA Bad or Good? I recently read an article which was definitely anti-AA and bashed 12 Step programs and I asked myself what was the point? As a headline grabber, it worked because it got me to click on the title which was “AA Harms us All”. Maybe that was the point. I should [...]
It’s that time of year when many people make resolutions and set goals for the upcoming year. Often, within the first few weeks or months of the new year, they have been abandoned. People struggle to figure out why they didn’t work and go back on autopilot with little or nothing changing. Whether it is [...]
